The Definitive Book of Body Language: How to read others' attitudes by their gestures

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Limp Wrist: the Limp Wrist is a submission signal used only by women and gay men. In business, the situation should be avoided Pease says it’s OK to approach a woman from the front and eventually move to a forty-five-degree angle (also read: how to approach a woman). Michael Argyle found that Westerners and European look at each other an average of 61% of the time while they speak. 40 to 60% when talking and 75-80% while listening. 31% is mutual gazing. The heads are behind the head with the elbows pointing outward. It gives an air of superiority like the person knows it all. The book is divided into 19 chapters, 15-16 of which deal directly with specific aspects of body language. Language such as foot positioning, hand gestures, and the handling of objects like cigarettes. It codifies certain gestures like the ‘steeple’ and the ‘catapult’, and details the emotions and attitudes likely to be present in a person displaying them. You can also understand how such gestures are likely to be received and reacted to by others.

If they want to feign interest but are starting to the bored the palm will start supporting the head.Feet serve the same purpose: we point our feet toward the person we find the most interesting. Courtship and Attraction Gestures As far as the academic study of body language goes, perhaps the most influential pre-twentieth-century work was Charles Darwin's The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals, published in 1872, but this work tended to be read mainly by academics. However, it spawned the modern studies of facial expressions and body language, and many of Darwin's ideas and observations have since been validated by researchers around the world. Since that time, researchers have noted and recorded almost a million nonverbal cues and signals. Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950's, found that the total impact of a message is about 7 percent verbal (words only) and 38 percent vocal (including tone of voice, inflection, and other sounds) and 55 percent nonverbal. Competitive / Defensive: the two face each other frontally with the table in between. The table becomes a solid barrier between the two and it can lead to each party taking a first stand on his point of view.

Pointing at someone with the thumb is usually a gesture of ridicule and disrespect towards the person you point your thumb at. Usually, it is not directly pointed at the person you’re speaking to, but it’s pointed toward a third party.Men described him as aggressive, insincere, arrogant, and not particularly funny. Graham had few male friends as men didn’t like a rival for the attention of his woman.

Pease adds that it doesn’t mean she needs to act in a masculine way, but she needs to avoid too many feminine signals such as soft handshakes, short skirts, and high heels. Letting your arms fall on the inside of the chair is the position that humble, defeated individuals will take. Fondling a Cylindrical Object: a man could in turn symbolically possess her by fondling her belonging (a cigarette lighter, keys, etc.)

Barbara and Allan Pease say that the intention of two-handed handshakes is to show sincerity or a depth of feelings. It’s a bit like using the second hand to show the willingness of hugging the other person, so the farther up it goes, the more intimacy it shows.

Barbara and Allan Pease say that one of the reasons why mobs get so angry is because everyone is in everyone’s personal space.

Subordinates are more likely to smile in the presence of dominant and superior people, both in friendly and unfriendly situations. Superior people instead smile around subordinate people only in friendly situations. Actors such as Jim Carrey play highly animated roles, and they’re usually powerless, intimidated men. Golden Keys to Making Great First Impression