10 x "Submissive" Tattoo lettering in black - Sexy Kinky BDM Tattoo (10)

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Many times, a Dominant will use small tasks to test a submissive’s willingness and ability to obey. When the Dominant sees how the submissive responds to these tasks, they have a better idea of whether they want to continue the relationship and/or how much training the submissive will require. As a submissive, the why for a rule being in place or why I am being given some, what I think is, a random task is very important to me. I happily comply with small, seemingly insignificant tasks. The Dominant should explain why menial tasks are assigned or why they are required. When the submissive understands the purpose, they will be happier to comply.

Once the punishment is completed, aftercare is critical for the mental well-being of the submissive. The punishment is meant to hurt so that the undesired behavior doesn’t happen again. Aftercare reassures the sub that they are still cared for. The aftercare after punishment is not the same as aftercare after a scene. There should be some reassurance to the submissive to remind them they aren’t bad, they are still loved. Avoiding shame triggers is a vital part of protecting the submissive’s emotional and mental health. Rewards don’t need to be things. Tangible items are nice, but non-physical things can be just as wonderful, and they don’t require any money spent. Personally, I prefer these type of rewards, especially when they aren’t expected. They take thought and consideration. When a Dominant takes the time to think of these things, they have learned how the submissive will respond. They really understand her. This is a high degree of intimacy between the couple.As a submissive, when I hear these things, it helps me relax. It helps me trust. It helps me see myself the way my Dom sees me. I want to please him, and when I please him, he rewards me. And that thrills me more than anything. He has me and it makes me want to do more to please him. I’m delighted and fulfilled when he is happy with me. D/s looks different for every pair of partners. Even you, as an individual, can need and want different things from each partnership.

Once good communication and trust are established, then the couple can explore and play. It is important to note that there is such a thing as a toxic, or bad, Dom. Unfortunately, there are some Doms that do not take the submissive’s needs into account and are in it for what makes them feel good. They don’t understand or respect the limits that the submissive has agreed to. When a submissive finds the right Dominant, some magic can happen. But there is one more step. You both need to agree on what you will both do, your limits, and punishments. Contracts Another route to go down is body modification. When I was with my ex-partner he'd encouraged me to get my nipples pierced. Unfortunately for me, I had healing issues on both occasions and my body rejected the piercings. However, the whole experience of being pierced, of knowing I was doing something so sexual for him and so symbolic was such a turn on and very exhilarating. My tip here is going to a piercer that is recommended by other kinksters. The first one I used was in the seaside town I used to live in and the second in a studio that dealt primarily with goths and I had only one or two personal recommendations of the place. It's such a serious thing to make sure you go somewhere that will look after you and give you the right advice. Be careful about fake Doms. Some Doms aren’t in it for the power play, just the power. This need for power and control can become abuse in all forms. There is a difference. Punishments are necessary to ensure that rules are followed, and boundaries respected. The Dominant shouldn’t take pleasure in punishments when it is for legitimate rule breaking. Funishment (bratty behavior or rule breaking during play) is very different. If you feel that you are being abused, you should try and get out of the relationship. The symbol has a significant meaning and details that make it stand for what it stands, so not much can be changed about the basic design, on the other hand, I would also like it to be PRETTY, feminine, and unique. So far I haven't found such a design.There’s a lot to be said about any kind of D/s relationship, as they can all be quite intensive given the emotions and high arousal levels that come from D/s play. However, there is something quite specific to be said about deciding that someone owns you. This isn’t something that’s often done lightly, and it can be a form of “taking your relationship to the next level.” This might just be the key to a healthy D/s relationship before, during, and after ownership... Ownership, to me, is an intricate thing that shouldn’t be taken lightly - but it also shouldn’t be stressed. Deciding if you want to take this (or any other significant step) in a relationship is a big deal while at the same time something that should happen naturally.

For those who like ink and are definitely 100% sure about the commitment to their partner, tattoos are an option. There is one particular ownership tattoo for submissives that I’ve seen a lot, it’s it’s a simple circle that says “owned by a master” (see here). Some people choose to get names written on them ( like this) and others prefer something a bit more simplistic and subtle, like this cute one. Some individuals are even open to being branded by their Dom. Whips- This group includes regular whips, riding crops, and floggers. Impact from these types of instruments spread the strike out. All play requires a “yes”. If it’s a “maybe” - put it off for another time. Talk about it more and sort out your worries. Part of the draw of the lifestyle as a submissive is to relinquish control to someone else so that they can help you be the best version of yourself. It’s not all about pleasure, well, that’s relative. There is pleasure in having someone take charge of parts of your life. There is pleasure in exploring how far you can push yourself. That’s why submissives need Dominants. It’s about learning your limits and having boundaries. The Dominant that you gift with your submission will guide you and enforce the boundaries when you forget. How they enforce is between you both and is something that should be discussed frequently.

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Withholding orgasm- The submissive will not be allowed to have an orgasm for a certain period of time.

Attention- Maybe it’s a sweet text or message or maybe it’s a voice message. Either way it’s special attention that is given to the sub as a reward for following directions.Some pointers for the design are that it needs to fit onto my body, so not be too big and masculine of a design. That is one of the objections I have with the traditional design, it looks quite manly to me. Given the style of that particular collar, it is one that is used only in the house either during play or sometimes for sleeping. It's too 'obvious' to wear in any sort of non-kink environment.